Mental Health: Bad days (#1)

Side note: I created a poll on Twitter and asked people what they would like to read more of, and Mental Health got the most votes. I think the reasoning behind this is that Mental Health is a subject a lot of people like to avoid. That’s a shame, because the more people talk about it, the better it will be for all of us. Everyone needs some guidance, some encouragement, and some words of wisdom from time to time. I decided I would create a Mental Health blog series (is that already a thing? I’m claiming it as my own anyway) with the intention of reaching out to people who are struggling with Mental Health issues. It might not make any difference, but it’s definitely worth a try.

Isn’t it incredible how one, simple thing can impact our mood? A change in weather. An argument with a friend. A few words can flip everything upside down in a matter of seconds. It’s difficult to turn a bad day around. In your mind, you’ve concluded that the day is ruined, so instead of trying to pick yourself back up you admit defeat.

Of course, there are also days when you don’t choose to feel the way you do. You wake up feeling like a dark cloud is hovering over you, just waiting. And suddenly any courage or strength gets sapped from the body entirely and every part of you longs to stay in bed for the entire day, tied up in your own depressing thoughts.

Not everyone will understand it. You’ll try talking to your friends and they’ll offer you that familiar, pitying expression which you know so well and maybe a few words of comfort. Sometimes it helps, but mostly it doesn’t. You don’t want to hear that it will get better. You want to know that you’re not the only one to feel this way. You want someone to look you straight in the eye and tell you that you’re not alone. Or maybe what you really need is a distraction; a way to escape from the battle inside your own head.

Just as quickly as a good day can transform into a bad day, the scale can tilt the other way. There will be a time when you’ll feel okay, if not happy, and you’ll wonder if the bad days were really that bad after all. But you shouldn’t doubt yourself. What you felt in the moment was raw emotion and most importantly the realest thing you will ever experience.

It’s OK to admit that you’re not sure what direction you are walking in. It’s OK to tell someone that you’ve not been yourself lately. It’s OK to feel frustration, sadness and loneliness all at the same time. So forceful and unexpected that it confines you to the comfort of your own bed. It’s OK.

It won’t always be like this. When you’re having another bad day and you’re at the worst you have ever felt, wondering how you will go on, just think about those good days. Familiarise yourself with the feelings you experienced. If you felt happy once, even for a brief moment, it means you are capable of feeling that way again. Maybe that’s the encouragement you need.

Mental Movement would appreciate your votes in the UK Blog Awards 2017. They truly deserve it for all of their hard work!